Skip Level Meetings

What is a skip level meeting? Find out why Skip Level Meetings are important, and exactly how to conduct one.

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Dealing With Difficult Behavior

Learn how to deal with ANY type of diffult behavior…as well as 6 specific types of bad behavior you are likely to encounter.

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Tips for Building a Communication Plan

When you have a specific event or decision to communicate, make sure you’ve included all the elements of a good communication plan.


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Communication Media Etiquette Guide

Join Jed and Bob as they discuss the different media options to communicate a message – and how to use each one appropriately.

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Setting Expectations

Join Jed and Bob as they discuss the do’s and don’ts of how to properly set expectations with your people.

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Introducing Yourself as a New Leader

Join Jed and Bob as they discuss how you can go about introducing yourself to a new organization or department when you are taking on a new leadership role.

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Communication Media Etiquette Guide

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As a manager, you have a wide range of media options to communication your messages.  Be sure you’re selecting the right media and using it appropriately by following the tips in this guide.

Email

  • Use “reply to all” sparingly, if ever.
  • Avoid one-word responses.
  • Don’t use the urgent flag – unless it’s urgent
  • Don’t use all caps.
  • Never email in anger.
  • Always use neutral language.
  • Spelling and grammar count.

Telephone

  • Use voice communication for any lengthy or sensitive topic.
  • Always ask if the other party has time to speak.
  • Schedule phone calls if necessary.
  • Avoid the speakerphone unless it is in a conference setting.
  • Give the other your undivided attention 

Voice Mail

  • Be brief – whether setting your message, or leaving a voice mail.
  • Tell people when you’re out of the office.
  • Direct them to another person or media, if appropriate

Social Media

  • Manage your brand.
  • Google yourself regularly.
  • Sarcasm and irony don’t work.
  • You don’t have to accept every friend request.

Face-to-Face

  • Still the most effective media – believe it or not.
  • Can also be the most efficient.
  • Put your smartphone away.
  • Give your undivided attention.
  • Be cautious with meetings.

3 Things to Remember About Communication Media Etiquette

  1. Communication still requires effort, regardless of how media changes.
  2. What you intend is irrelevant.  What is received is what counts.
  3. The medium is the message – so choose appropriately.

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“I Told That Guy That!”

Why don’t your people do things the way they’re supposed to?!?   It may be because you didn’t set clear expectations in the first place.  Learn how to set expectations that are crystal clear, and use them as a tool to manage performance. Become a Wily Manager member today and get the full story from Bob and Jed.  Is that clear?

Many managers having uttered the words, “I told that guys that!”, become truly amazed when people don’t live up to their expectations.  There are hundreds of reasons why leaders end up being disappointed when their expectations aren’t met, but here’s our list of the top five:

Thinking you can tell people something once.  You may have “told that guy”, but if you haven’t done it multiple times, by multiple media, your job isn’t yet done.  Much like teaching your children new habits, it takes time and effort to integrate new expectations into consistent behaviors.

Thinking that expectations last forever.  You also need to periodically remind people about expectations.  I once worked for client that had very specific expectations for travel expenses.  As months and years passed without any consistent reminders or reinforcement of those expectations, people deviated substantially from the policy.  When a new manager came in and called people on their expenses, he had an uphill battle.  For years people had done what they wanted, and now this new guy was trying to hold them to account for expectations that were set long ago.

Acting Inconsistently.  “Do as I say, not as I do…” doesn’t work.  A former client made the decision to move to an open office concept from enclosed offices because they wanted to set an expectation of an open, accessible corporate culture.  It all went horribly wrong as soon as the senior leaders locked themselves behind closed doors, after creating the expectation that everyone should embrace the idea of the open concept.  There is also no faster way to eliminate any credibility you have as a leader than to say one thing, and do another.

Having a laundry list.  If you hand people a list of expectations that numbers in the hundreds, you are asking (if not begging) to be let down.  Public sector organizations are famous for this.  Due to their risk aversion, they want to cover off any and all contingencies, so they create expectations for things that could not be more impossible.  Keep your expectations clear and manageable – and never hand your people a laundry list.

Assuming people understand.  Sometimes people say they understand when they don’t.  Much like the English-speaking tourist in a foreign country who simply yells louder at the nodding cab driver, you’re still not going to get what you want if the other person doesn’t understand.  Part of setting expectations is to ask clarifying and confirming questions to ensure the other fully understands.

If you are regularly disappointed when people don’t perform according to your expectations, perhaps you aren making one or more of these common mistakes.  Avoid this unnecessary frustration – watch this week’s video about Setting Expectations.  

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Setting Expectations

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Setting Expectations is a key leadership skill that is often executed poorly.  Below we talk about the following aspects of how to Set Expectations:

  • Why Leaders Need to Set Clear Expectations
  • Different Media to Set Expectations
  • The Do’s of Setting Expectations
  • The Don’ts of Setting Expectations

Why Leaders Need to Set Clear Expectations

  • Quite simply, you can’t hold people accountable for things they didn’t know they were responsible for.

Different Media to Set Expectations

There are many ways that managers Set Expectations with their people.  Some of those methods are:

  • Job Descriptions
  • Performance Reviews
  • One on One Meetings
  • Articulation of clear Goals & Objectives
  • Development Plans
  • Performance Contracts
  • Discussions
  • Emails

The Do’s of Setting Expectations

  • Refine, Reinforce and Repeat the expectations you have of others.
  • Use multiple media to Set Expectations.
  • Have a few, key important objectives rather than a laundry list.
  • Use One on One meetings to ensure clarity of Set Expectations.
  • Describe standards or parameters of the expectations that you set.
  • Describe how success will be measured.
  • Describe how the expectations you are setting fit into the big picture
  • Set SMART Expectations:
    • Specific
    • Measurable
    • Attainable
    • Relevant
    • Time Bound

The Don’ts of Setting Expectations

  • Use General “HR Speak”.
    • “Have good organizational skills”
    •  “Other duties as assigned”
    • “Extend courtesy and project professionalism”
  • Think that one conversation is adequate.
  • Set Expectations without asking questions to test for understanding.
  • Set Expectations once, and then forget about it.

3 Things to Remember About How to Set Expectations:

  1. Time invested up front to articulate clear expectations pays back many times over.
  2. Asking good questions is a key skill in setting expectations.
  3. Be SMART when articulating expectations

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Top 3 Excuses to NOT Have Regular One-on-Ones

The whole idea of meeting one on one with their direct reports on a regular basis is scary for many leaders.  There are a variety of reasons for this, none of which hold much water.

Excuse #1:  I don’t have time.  This is the most common excuse managers cite for not meeting regularly with their people.  Interestingly, they don’t have time to meet with their people individually on any regular basis, yet they seem to have time for an unlimited series of drop-in (or “drive-by”) meetings every day.  Here’s an idea: buy yourself an hourglass that has two-minutes worth of sand.  Next time one of your direct reports asks you if you’ve got a minute, reply, “For you… I’ve got two minutes.”  Then turn over the hourglass.

Excuse #2:  It’s too intimate.  When we suggest one on one meetings, we’re not suggesting that you light some candles, dim the lighting, and put on some John Tesh at Redrocks bootleg music.  Rather, have your direct reports be responsible for planning, scheduling and running of your one on one meetings.  If possible, go to their office or station to have the meeting – it’ll do you good to get out of your office.

Excuse #3:  I don’t like my direct reports.  If you don’t like your directs, it’s probably a condition of the prejudice you’ve developed about them because you don’t interface with them very often.  It makes no sense not to like people, just because you don’t know them.  If you take the time to really get to know your people, you’ll find all kinds of legitimate reasons not to like them – and this would make sense.  Besides… one of the conditions of sitting at the big-kids table is dealing with the fact you have to deal with people you don’t like.

I would never suggest you have to like all your direct reports – but you do need to communicate with them, and there’s no better way to do so than with highly-structured, highly-focused, regularly scheduled one on one meetings.